My wife showed me this post yesterday and it really resonated with me. I hope you’ll read it and perhaps take away the same meaning it had for me…
A couple of weeks ago a child therapist that I know looked at my kids and said,
"You're such a good mum"
“A couple of weeks ago a child therapist that I know looked at my kids and said,
“You’re such a good mum”
Feeling like a total fraud I blurted, “I don’t feel like a good mum. The kids are driving me so crazy, I’m losing my temper and falling asleep at night wondering where I’m going got get the patients for another day”
To which she responded with a statement that I haven’t been able to forget,
“Babies cry, it’s how they communicate. Toddlers scream, children whinge and teenagers complain.
Then mums say the words ‘for fuck sake under their breath before every responding. It’s how we communicate.
But guess what Con? It’s better (than) silence.
A house full of screaming kids and fighting teenagers and a parent who’s being thrown every question and request is a healthy one to me.
It’s the silent children, the scared toddlers, the teenagers that don’t come home and the parents who aren’t in communication with their children that I worry about.
And kids don’t drive you crazy, you were crazy already. That’s why you had them.”
And just like that, I felt like a good parent again.
Deep breaths, you’re doing a good job.”