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When Things Go Wrong

Things Go Wrong

There are times for each of us when things go wrong, people hurt us (unintentionally or intentionally), there’s just too much to do, the dog is sick, the bills stack up, everyone you talk to dumps their grief on you, and,  at some point, your nerves seem stretched to the breaking point. (I saw a t-shirt that says it: “I only have one nerve left and you’re standing on it.”)

I don’t have these kind of days often but they do catch up with me now and then. And sometimes I feel a case of what I call the “screamin’ meemies” coming on.

I had one of those days not long ago. I had to work extra hard on “rampages of appreciation,” keeping myself in alignment, grounded and centered. Making lists of everything I have to be grateful for is probably the most helpful on these days. But  I also played a lot of computer games to change my state and keep my mind from worrying and going negative. I even spent some extra time at the dog park letting Smarty  run with the other dogs and working off some of his excess energy. It’s like putting “money in the bank” for some quiet time when we get home and I need quiet time to help settle things down.

I try to be careful not to take it out on anyone else but the temptation to do so is strong—because the “screamin’ meemies” like to be broadcast loud and long to anyone around.

I am responsible for my happiness

I kept telling myself that I alone am responsible for what I think and the way I feel. My happiness does not depend on anyone else or their actions or omissions. And part of me would respond “Yeah, right!” But that is oh, so true. I alone am responsible for me and my happiness. It’s a hard lesson to learn and I guess I’ll always be “a work in progress.”

The question always is, “What can I learn from this?”

Sometimes the greatest growth comes from times like this. Trying times give you a measure of what you’re made of and where you need to put your self improvement attention. Trying times are a signal to you to be more loving toward yourself and more loving—and patient—with those around you. Easy to say, isn’t it?

Even though I know my happiness depends entirely on me, I also know that we need each other and we need to travel the path of life together, helping each other as much as we can. Even if it’s someone you might not like very much right now, we still go through this together—you can make it difficult or acceptable. You get to choose.

Hafiz, the great Sufi mystic and poet, said this so well in his poem A Great Need:

A Great Need

Of a great need
We are all holding hands
And climbing.
Not loving is a letting go.
The terrain around here
Is Far too

Taken from The Gift, Poems by Hafiz the Great Sufi Master, Translations by Daniel Ladinsky

About Yury Zvyagolskiy

Yury Zvyagolskiy
In almost all American movies there is a bad guy who is usually Russian and his name is Yury. If the bad guy is not from Russia, his last name usually starts with Z. So here I am - Yury Z. My specialty is personal effectiveness. I am an expert in goal achievement, personal effectiveness, relationships and effective thinking.

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