Let’s talk a bit about dealing with pet peeves. Most of us have them—those little mannerisms or actions of others that get under our skin or make our blood boil.
For instance: Do you ever get annoyed by drivers of SUVs, vans, trucks and pickups who pull so far out into the intersection that you can’t see traffic coming? Because you can’t see traffic in one direction, you can’t make your turn until he/she turns even though you had several opportunities. That’s one of my pet peeves and I think it is dangerous. There is nothing I can do about it except voice my opinion and hope that some of them get the message. When in the situation, I do some deep breathing and try to stay relaxed. And I ask those of you who drive big vehicles to be aware that those of us in a Honda Civic or other small car can’t see the traffic when you pull out so far. Please, please, please.
Another one of my “pet peeves” is littering. When I see someone throw a drink cup out of a car window or flip his cigarette onto someone else’s property, I get steamed. I wonder what their house looks like. I’ve finally realized that I can’t stop their boorish behavior so I’ve started carrying a plastic bag with me on my morning walk just to pick up what others have carelessly thrown on the floor of this beautiful planet. It’s interesting— and disgusting—what you find in the middle of the street and along the side of the road. Keep your trash to yourself and dispose of it properly, please. Taking action helps me deal with my own feelings and keeps me from being so “steamed.”
Cats and dogs make better pets than peeves
Peeves, like other forms of negativity, allowed to fester and grow, will rob you of energy, weaken your immune system and create needless stress within you. So I’m inviting you to take a look at your peeves, determine if you can do something to bring about change in a positive way and, whether you can or cannot bring about change, let them go.
Say what? Let them go?
Well, you don’t have to let them go—no one is going to make you do it. There are no pet peeve police. But pet peeves can be like cancer of the emotions that eat away at you causing all kinds of needless destruction—physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Think about your peeves. Maybe you are rankled by members of your family who don’t pick up after themselves, or have an annoying habit that “bugs you.” Maybe people who are always late get your blood boiling or those who make commitments they never seem to keep cause you to feel irritable and ruin your day.
We each have our list.
But like everything else, being peeved is a choice.
You can be a positive example to others by your own behavior, but you cannot change someone else. Remember—you don’t have to stress over their bad behavior. Unless it’s dangerous and can harm someone else, your best action is to mind your own business and take care of those things you do that are less than desirable.
Does it serve you better to let your blood pressure go sky high because the toilet seat is up or to simply put it down?
Does it help you more to fume over the litter or to pick it up and dispose of it so you can appreciate the beauty of your neighborhood? (If you have allowed your children to throw their clothes, toys and other belongings in the floor, it is up to you to teach them responsibility. Or you can pick up after them. Your choice).
How good would would it feel to remove one more stress from your life? Dealing with your pet peeves and letting the emotion out of them would do just that.
Relax. Chill. Make a choice to do what you can to change the things you can and let the rest go.
If you want a pet, not a pet peeve, get a dog (or cat).
Give yourself the gift of a happy day.