It’s probably not surprising to anyone, really, that most people would prefer a singleton pregnancy to a twin pregnancy. Now that I’m carrying twins, I’m commonly greeted with the comments “You sure will have your hands full,” or “You are going to be one busy mama!” Those responses are par for the course and not meant to offend, but they do get a little old.
Recently, I mentioned to a pregnant friend that she might have “two in there,” and she responded with a laughing, but serious “Don’t you even dare say that again!”
The most amazing pregnancy support leggings! 30 weeks pregnant here and going strong.
As a twin mom-to-be, I’ve become defensive of twin pregnancies and want people to know what a blessing they truly are. But to be fair, I can’t be too annoyed by those who say “Do not wish that upon me!” because I’m sure I said similar things pre-twin pregnancy too.
Since I’m a glass-half-full type of girl, I want to share some special parts of a twin pregnancy that I never would have considered before, but never want to forget now. It’s easy to think about things I do want to forget with this pregnancy, like being so hungry, my huge bump, the worry, the discomfort, the insomnia, the peeing, and so on.
But there is a bright side. Carrying two babies can be magical.
So to any mamas-to-be of multiples, here are some things to cling to during the scary, stressful, uncomfortable months of being pregnant with twins. Remember: You are strong, and those babies were always meant to be for you. You can do this.
1. There are three hearts beating inside of you.
And that is just amazing. You are creating life — not one, but two at a time. Don’t let the miracle of that ever wear away. As hard as it is, a twin pregnancy gets more mind-blowing the closer and closer you get to meeting your babies. It took me a while to fully embrace and see this miracle, but I hope you can see it when you’re ready too.
2. You get to see your babies quite often.
Although there is added worry and stress that comes with a high-risk pregnancy, you do get to see your babies more often. Monthly ultrasounds, at the minimum, are pretty routine, and it never gets old seeing them move together in there — snuggling and kicking each other.
3. You get random waves of feeling like a total badass.
While most of the time I feel like I can’t do exactly what I want to how I want to, there are moments when it sinks in that I am kind of a champ. Walking and parenting and sleeping and working are all much harder, but you’re doing it! You’re living with two lives growing inside of you, and you’re doing something that only about 3% of women experience.
4. People’s responses (even strangers) to a twin pregnancy are awesome.
It never fails that people get excited when you tell them you’re expecting twins. I’ve had people at the grocery store, zoo, doctor’s office waiting room, and park freak out when I tell them. Also, everyone knows someone with twins, and it’s fun to connect with people and hear their twin stories. It’s also great running into twin moms — it seems like they’re everywhere once you are pregnant with twins. That instant connection is comforting, and you can see that they survived the pregnancy and newborn stage too.
5. You don’t have to choose just one name on your list. You can use both. Win-win!
I’m indecisive and a hardcore planner. We had two boy names and two girl names chosen.
6. You get to announce your pregnancy news TWICE.
We told our immediate family the news that I was pregnant when we were just six weeks along. A few weeks later, we got to surprise everyone again after we found out there were two in there during our eight-week ultrasound. Priceless.